Taken by surprise…

In my last updates post, I briefly spoke about a girl who I spoke to at my Christmas party and “gave her the time of day.” Well against all odds, we’ve been talking quite a bit and we randomly ended up sleeping together the other day. I’m always cautious with work situations because they’re basically a subversion of nature, it’s a situation drained of all sexuality and that’s not me, I’m a flirty guy even if it’s just a conversation. So anyway this girl from work, we whatsapp quite a bit, she’s feisty but cool. I like her, in fact I dare say we actually have great chemistry, which is not something I come across like ever. I think last year I met 3 girls that I would say that I clicked with, which I would define as a girl who has got my attention and I genuinely want to get to know her better beyond the physical. Frankly with most girls, I just don’t care about their day or what they’re doing in their life, I want to say it’s sad but it’s not. It’s just how it is. Now I’d say with this girl Alex, that it’s like a step above clicking. It’s like a throwback to the days when I’d get excited when a girl I liked sent me a message and it’s nice to feel something for once. Thankfully though, after everything else that I’ve been through, I’m not going to make any rash decisions. I think rationally about situations like this now and I’m not going to end up in a relationship or something like that, I don’t want to. I’d rather let it go than end up doing something like that. So we slept with each other for the first time the other day and technically we haven’t been on a date yet, I mean I took her out for a few drinks, well we basically just got drunk and went dancing which she loved. Then the other night she half invited me over after I’d been out drinking, so it was like the second time we met outside of work. On a side note to that, I generally have no idea of telling how chaste most girls are based on how quickly I sleep with them because I seem to bed girls pretty easily. I actually want to write a post on that one day, maybe I’ll mix it with a post to do with contraception too because I feel like there’s a correlation between a few of these things but I haven’t properly thought about it. So yeah, slept with her on the second time of asking so to speak, I left her in a bed at 6:30am…baller.

I also have the slight problem of having to break things off with Adele who is pushing for a relationship, she has said as much and I skated past the second real proposal of commitment. I’m so glad that I’m strong enough to do that now because maybe a few years ago I would have relented even though I didn’t want to. I can’t say how well she’ll take it because I’ve never pissed her off before but we’ll see. Adele is the perfect example of a girl I find attractive, get on okay with but it was never going anywhere but she felt it was and I think if she really sat down and thought about it, she’ll know that we were never going to be anything but it might take her a few months to realise that.